Are You In Love Or Are You In Love With Love?

If you are a lover of love, take some time to yourself, evaluate what it is you really want, and get back out there; failing to address your idealism could result in heartbreak not only for you, but for your significant others as well.
The concept of love—the one that can survive in the real world—is far from superficial. Love does not necessarily follow a strict formula. After all, the truth can be such a damning thing, and more often than not, the truth can be harsh and cruel, like a hard slap to the face.

1. YOU ALWAYS RUSH LOVE: Taking it slow has never been your game. When you look for romance, you tend to go the fast route. You find that you cannot take a relationship in stride, and you find yourself caught in a whirlwind romance. Because of this, the fire tends to burn out faster than it took to light the spark.

2. YOU CONSTANTLY QUESTION THE FIGHT FOR LOVE : Love is a wonderful, beautiful thing, and to fight for something so beautiful would, indeed, be an honor. It becomes a tragedy, however, when you find yourself questioning if you have something to fight for in the relationship. Do you fight for love, or just the idea of love—the concept of being in a loving, passionate relationship? When you find yourself questioning the fight, it is time to rethink the entire thing.

3. YOUR ESTEEM IS LOW WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE: When you are in love with the concept of love, you usually find that you haven’t really felt entirely loved by anyone around you—not even by your family or friends. Because of this, you desperately try to find it in other people, because without love, or a fraction of it, you feel empty and unfulfilled.

4. YOU DON’T LIKE TO FACE THE DOWN PARTS OF LOVE: True love is more than just romance. It is a choice. It is a commitment to continue loving someone despite their faults and failings. It is loving him when a devastating sickness shuts him down. It is loving her and being with her when she runs out of money. It is choosing to love him when he grows old. Love is more than getting an emotional high. Love is never easy, but that is what makes it all the more beautiful.

5. BEING FAITHFUL ISN’T YOUR FORTE: Because you discover that you cannot find fulfillment in just one person, you find yourself constantly caught between two—or more—people. You find yourself seeking someone better and seeking out other options, without disposing of your current partner.

6. YOU’RE ALWAYS TRYING TO CHANGE YOUR PARTNER: While you constantly tell yourself that you love your partner, you find that you want to change them. While you might not tell them this outright, you are constantly giving them ideas on how they can improve, or “better themselves.”

7. YOU JUMP FROM ONE RELATIONSHIP TO THE OTHER: Breakups hurt. Heartbreaks hurt even more. Most people like to take a complete break from relationships after a particularly painful breakup before getting back into the dating field. While some people tend to recover from breakups a little faster than others, there are those who bounce from relationship to relationship without taking a break in between. This is usually due to an irrational fear of being single, or of being the lone part of a whole, that causes them to seek another partner without giving time to heal existing wounds.
By Famakin Opeyemi
#Green Net